Injustice disguised as wellnes

I don't deserve comfort at the cost of someone's pain. I don't get to heal faster than the person i hurt I learned this the hard way and I want to share- when someone's suffered because of us- we clearly say, I understand my mistake and I deserve peace and we move on but that's unfair, we escape responsibility saying it's self love? we have to stay uncomfortable longer than the person who is suffering. don't say "I'm human" as an excuse let the guilt teach you, until you change yourself to not repeat it again. please don't hurt people you love it's the worst regret. I have done it and I'm guilty. I need to accept consequences without resentment.