I'm not them, their not me

My dad always tells me "you remind me of your mother' but based on him my mom and his marriage was a mistake how can you tell me I look like someone you hate in life and refuse to have a peaceful conversation with?, I've listened to your words of of truth knowing that not everything you say is true I listened to your lies knowing they would just tear down your life more, but when my mother says that I remind her of my father. it's like she doesn't realize that I would never marry someone and call they're life with them a mistake in front of my child, and I would never compare a bitch to a child who has not choice but to bare the wait of their parents on their shoulder knowing that all the mistakes their parents make will just pile up and get heavier, I'm not like my mother, I'm not my father, I'm not them yet it feels like no matter how hard I try not to be I get told the same thing by an aunt or uncle, "you look like your father/mother"